"I’m sick of how bisexuality is erased in LGBT spaces. I get really nervous before any LGBT event, especially Pride. I feel incredibly sad and hopeless when gay and lesbian people call me insulting names. If gay and lesbian people don’t understand me – Continue reading Prejudice at Pride at Empathize This
This just punched me in the heart.
This, though. This is probably the hardest part of my life.
“I feel incredibly sad and hopeless when gay and lesbian people call me insulting names. If gay and lesbian people don’t understand me – having been on the receiving end of hate themselves – then how will anyone else understand?” Yep.
“I’ve been told that bisexuality automatically means I’ll never be satisfied being monogamous, that I will cheat on any lesbian partner with a man. It’s like they think that bisexual people have a monopoly on cheating, and we are automatically selfish." This is particularly hard when it comes from someone with whom you’re in a relationship. And that’s happened too often, without justification, which makes the question of whether or not being in a relationship is worth it altogether too relevant for me.
“It’s almost always gay men who get physical." This is true.
“Being visible and out is important to me. I shouldn’t have to hide a big part of myself through fear from the very people who are meant to support me.”
I try constantly to walk the line of, “be visible so others know they’re not alone,” and, “don’t put it out there that you’re not gay/straight because people will think differently about you.” And that’s a shitty line to have to walk.
But like the author, I put myself out there because I know I’m not the only one, and someone else out there needs to know that they aren’t either, and that they have someone to support them, and who just knows what they’ve been through.
So. If you’re bi or pan or anything else, please know that I’m here for you. You are not alone.
I love you just the way you are.